If you have ever had a well-meaning family member or friend ask after you. You will know how it feels when they push their anxiety onto you, rather than improve their (or your) understanding of what you are working on.
This brings me to my point.
Coaching, teaching, and the business of education when driven by agendas, not by learning can leave you feeling pretty shit about yourself.
The thing with coach education is that there is always one more course you can go on. One more advancement. One more step and then..,..
The message is clear. Through education, we can advance. Better coaches make for a better future.
But for who?
While it is true that every coach I speak to could do with knowing more it is also true that every coach I speak to is not whom they want to be. They fear not getting picked when they tell the parents to back off. The performance director is a distraction. And so it goes on.
And when I ask them what they really want most tell me they want their kids, athletes, or team to perform to their potential.
I don’t know of an educational course that will stop you from doing one more thing before you do you.
Sunday I left it. The silence was better than a blog I didn’t want to send. It doesn’t happen very often and when it does I just let it pass.
Today, I was afraid I wouldn’t get any silence. Surrounded by builders drilling through electric cables (by mistake), taking off the plaster from the walls, and pulling down tiles in the bathroom. And yet, I found silence in my own thoughts.
Frustrated I pick up on other people’s noise. When I’m comfortable with what I’m doing I manage to drown it out with my own thoughts.
I wonder if our consumption of social media works the same way?
Why desire change when the life you have built for yourself works just fine?
We remain stuck for good reason. Our social structures and worldviews are built to support our status quo. Any change will disrupt status and likely not in a good way.
Wanting people to change is not nearly as helpful as creating a connection for them.
Connecting with people who accept and appreciate us works. It works because our reference points change as our exposure to ideas, information, and experiences changes. And when we connect to people who accept and appreciate us, we suffer no loss in status within the group.
When people open themselves up to new connections, they have done the hard part. The question is have you done the hard part of accepting them into the group?